“I love myself.” That sounds a bit silly (and I doubt anyone would ever say it out loud), but self-love isn’t reserved for the egomaniacs of the world. Finding the confidence to succeed (or even the courage to start) is very difficult if you don’t love yourself. If you’re ready to swoon your hot self, keep on reading.

“我爱自己。”——听上去真滑稽，估计很少有人会大声喊出来吧？不过，自爱并不一定就是自大狂。如果不爱自己，又怎能有勇气迈开第一步或有信心赢得成功呢？倘若你已决定好好爱自己，那就继续往下读吧。

1. Stop Beating Yourself Up

停止苦逼

Would you say the things you think about yourself to another person? If not, you owe yourself an apology. How could you love a person who believes such nasty things about you? Even if you did mess up, get over it. Big goof that’s mostly irrelevant? Laugh at it. Serious mistake that had repercussions? Learn from it. The important thing is to drop your baggage and move on.

你会不会把内心对自己的那些看法用来评价另外一个人？如果不会，那你还欠自己一个道歉。你怎会爱上听信有关你的坏话的人呢？就算你确实搞砸过，那也是过去了。难得犯了糊涂？一笑而过吧。犯了后果严重的错误？那就吸取教训。重要的是抛开包袱，继续前行。

2. Think Positive

积极思考

Focus on your strengths (instead of your weaknesses). Leap out of bed (don’t crawl out of it). Look at every day as a new opportunity (not the same old story).

不要老盯着缺点，而应多想想优点。要一跃而起，不可拖拉磨叽。不要认为日无新事，其实每天都是新机遇。

3. Be Thankful

充满感恩

Be aware of all the things you should be thankful for. Make note of the people, places, things and activities that bring you the most joy. If you slow down, you’ll realize you have an awful lot to be thankful for.

用心留意所有值得感恩的事情。记下那些给自己带来快乐的人和事。只要放慢脚步，你一定会发现值得感恩的事情太多太多。

4. Learn and Grow

学习并成长

Developing your knowledge and skills will help you develop a healthy swagger and confidence that you can do anything.

扩充知识及磨练技能可让你健全而充满自信，要相信自己可以做好任何事情。

5. Accept Your Flaws/Quirks/Weirdness

接受缺点、怪癖和古怪

My penmanship sucks, I can’t ride a bike, I am only good at cooking three things (spaghetti/omelets/sandwiches) and I have an irrational fear of bees (which is so bad that I once drove my car into a stop sign after one flew into an open window on a summer day). And you know what? I wouldn’t change any of that. Be confident in yourself, no matter how “weird” (interesting and unique) you may be.

我写字很难看，不会骑自行车，做饭只会三样东西（意大利面、煎蛋卷、三明治），而且我特别害怕蜜蜂：某个夏天，一只蜜蜂从开着的窗户飞进车里，结果我一头撞上了路标牌。尽管如此，我还是没改掉这些。不管有多古怪、搞笑或与众不同，都要自信满满地做好自己！

6. Use Your Strengths

发挥优点

Think about the top three accomplishments in your life. I don’t care how big or little they are. It could be graduating college, landing a sweet job, getting your first business client, winning an award, losing weight, or whatever. Now write down the strengths you used to accomplish those three things. See any common threads that led to achievement? If so, the path to more success is right in front of you. Use the strengths that have been proven to work if you want to boost belief in yourself make your weaknesses irrelevant.

请想一下这辈子完成的三大成就，不论大小，可以是大学毕业、找到好工作、争取第一位生意客户、获奖或减肥；然后写下帮你实现以上目标的优点。有没有发现取得成功的相似线索？若有，那么那条途径也能引领你获得更大成功。若想提高自信、淡化弱点，那就常常发挥行之有效的优点吧。

7. No More Comparisons

停止攀比

Forget about the celebrities you compare your body to, the relationships you contrast yours with, and the people you are so obsessed with pleasing. Life is not a competition. Your only goal is to become a better version of yourself.

不要再和明星比身材，不要拿自己的感情和别人的相比较，不要再一味讨好他人。生活不是竞赛，你只要做更好的自己就行了。