Do you sometimes feel like you are in a rut and you can’t get out? We all do from time to time.

你是不是常常觉得自己陷在了困境中无法脱身?我们所有人时不时地都会遭遇这样的情况。

When I was younger, I remember lying in my bed most evenings before I fell asleep, and all I could think about was everything that was going wrong in my life, and played a video of all the things I wasn’t happy with over and over in my mind. I would think about all the things that I wasn’t achieving and wished that something would happen one day to make everything better, a miracle.

当我年轻时，我记得有很多晚在入睡前我都躺在床上，想的都是生活中进展不顺的事，在我脑子里像放电影一样一遍遍地重复着那些我不开心的事。我会想那些我没达成的事，希望有一天能发生奇迹，使一切都变好。

When things aren’t going as well as you want them to, perhaps you aren’t getting the results you want or you feel like you are in a dip, it’s difficult to see how things are really going to turn out the way you want them to.

当事情没有朝着你想的那样发展时，也许你就得不到想要的结果，或者你感觉自己裹足不前，很难看出事情到底会怎么样发展。

Sometimes when we are so caught up in our “problems”, we are unable to see any solution ahead or we keep trying to fix everything on the outside, when in fact, it is the inside that needs a little tweaking as well. Sometimes the smallest changes have the most influential impact and can change your life forever.

有时当我们如此深陷在我们自己的问题中时，我们就找不到任何出路，或者我们不停地尝试着解决外界的所有问题，而实际上，内心也是需要一点点调整的。有时很细小的一点改变都能产生非常重大的影响，进而永远改变了我们的生活。

1. Change your focus

改变你的关注点

Why? Because what you focus on, you create more of. The worst thing to do when something bad happens is to keep thinking about how unfair, how crazy, or how unbelievable it was.

为什么?因为你越专注，你创造的就越多。当事情出了差错，最糟的一件事是对此念念不忘，想着它是怎么不公、疯狂以及难以置信。

The fact is that we can’t change what happens, but we have a choice in how we respond and deal with what happened. If you only focus on what isn’t going right, how will you be able to see what can go right?

我们改变不了已经发生的事，但我们可以选择如何回应以及如何处理已经发生的事。如果你一心想着事情不会顺利进展，那你怎么能看到它顺利进展的一面?

Start to focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want; start to focus on what you can do and not what you can’t do. Focus on what is going well and not on what isn’t going well.

去关注你想要的，而不是你不想要的;去关注你能做到的，而不是你做不到的。关注那些进展顺利的，而不是那些进展不顺利的。

2. Question every thought

质疑每个想法

Your thinking is shaped by your beliefs about the world, your paradigms, and beliefs, and how you see the world is different to everybody else. Your experiences as a child, your parents, friends and family influenced your views and the way you perceive the world—basically, how you think.

你的世界观、阅历、信念形成了你的想法，你怎么看这个世界和其他人怎么看这个世界是不一样的。来自小时候、你的父母、朋友和家庭的各种经历影响了你的观念和你感知世界的方式——通俗的说，就是你怎么想。

Unfortunately, the beliefs you formed might not all have been good for you, but may hold you back instead.

遗憾的是，你所形成的信念也许对你来说并不都是好的，反而有可能拖你后腿。

If you want to change your results, start by looking at the related supporting belief. Your beliefs give you thoughts, which give you feelings. Then you act on your feelings, and this gives you your behavior, which in turn leads to your results. Question your thoughts and identify the limiting ones.

如果你想要改变结果，首先审视一下与之有关的信念。你的信念给了你想法，想法产生感觉。然后你跟着感觉做事，这样就有了你的行为，行为反过来造就了你的结果。质疑你的想法，辨别出那些限制性的想法。

If you don’t think something is possible, it isn’t. If you don’t think it will work out, it won’t. Take control of your thoughts or they will control you.

如果你认为有些事不可能发生，那么它就不会发生。如果你认为它解决不了，那么它就解决不了。控制你的想法，不然想法就会控制你。

3. Aim to change or re-develop a bad habit

决心改变一种坏习惯

We all have some bad habits that are obviously not helping us very much. Habits can be the most challenging to overcome. but it is definitely worth the time and effort put in to try. Habits are formed from repetition, and the best way to undo a habit is to replace it with a better habit, also through repetition.

我们都有一些坏习惯，它们明显帮不到我们什么忙。习惯也许是最难克服的一种挑战了，但它确实值得花时间和努力去尝试。习惯因重复而形成，所以克服一种习惯的最好方式就是用一种好习惯来代替它，同样也是通过重复。

Which habits are undermining your results? What new habit could you develop to transform your results? Choose one habit to change and start with that, even if it’s just checking your email every 2 hours instead of 10 minutes—your results will change!

哪些习惯在破坏你的成果?你可以培养哪些新习惯来改变你的结果?选一种要改变的习惯，然后以它开始，即使仅仅是每两小时查阅邮箱而不是每10分钟——你的结果将会发生改变!

4. Take Responsibility

承担责任

If you want to change your results, you need to accept responsibility for them. It’s not empowering to feel like a victim and to blame others for the results you have. You can either be on the “cause” or the “effect” side of the equation; which side do you choose to be on?

如果你想要改变结果，你需要承担为实现它们而负有的责任。让自己像受害者一样为现有的结果去责备他人并不会让我们有更多动力。在等式里，你要么选“原因”，要么选“结果”;你要选择哪一边?

You have control over the results in your life, and you have influence, if you want. It is up to you to decide to take hold of the reins again and take responsibility for the things that you are not happy with. If you take responsibility for your results, your results will change.

如果你想，你可以掌握生活中的结果，你还有影响力。控制情感、为你不开心的事承担责任，这些都取决于你。如果你为结果承担责任，结果会有所不同。

5. That one skill!

一技之长

What is one skill that, if you excelled at it, would change your life forever? Sometimes, the thing that keeps holding us back is a constant; something we feel that we are generally lacking in. Is it public speaking, communication, time management or positive thinking?

如果你很擅长，那会是哪一项技能会永远改变你的生活?有时，阻碍我们前进的都是同样的问题;那就是我们感觉我们缺少那一项技能：是公共演讲、交流、时间管理还是积极思考?

Imagine how different your results would be if you could master the one skill that keeps holding you back? Here are some great ideas.

如果你掌握了那项拖你后腿的技能，你想象一下你会有怎样不同的结果?这里一些好的主意。

6. Make a 30-day plan

制订一份30天计划

Another great way to change your results quickly is by using the 30-day plan. The idea is to think about what you want to achieve/change in the next 30 days only, so it is not so overwhelming and easier to start.

另一个很快改变结果的好方法是使用30天计划表。想一想你想要在30天内实现或改变什么，它不会太有难度，而且还容易开始。

You can do this in 3 easy steps.

遵循3个简单步骤，你就能做到。

(1) Think about what you want to accomplish in 30 days. How many new clients do you want? How much weight do you want to lose? Etc; Write down your 30 day goals. Make sure they are specific, measurable, and attainable, but still challenging and exciting!

想一想你要在30天内达成的事。你想要多少新客户?你想要减掉多少斤?等等。写下你要在30天内实现的目标。目标一定要是具体的、可测量的和可达成的，但也要有挑战性和振奋性。

(2) Think about what you need to do to accomplish each goal. Write down all the action steps you are going to need to do, break them into weekly and daily tasks and put them in your calendar.

想一想为了实现目标你需要做些什么事。写下所有你需要去做的行动步骤，把它们分解到周任务和每日任务里去，并把它们写进你的日程表里。

(3) Think about your obstacles—what could happen that would prevent you from achieving this goal. Be prepared for the moments you normally hesitate and make a plan to overcome your obstacle.

想一想你遇到的困难——比如会发生哪些阻碍你完成目标的事。为犹豫不决的事情做好准备，制订一份战胜困难的计划。