It Scores One Point

玫瑰娇羞美丽，香气扑鼻，象征着爱代表着情。这小小的花儿，价值几何呢? A man thinks he scores high with a woman when he does something very big for her, like buying her a new car or taking her on vacation. He assumes he scores less when he does something small, like opening the car door, buying her a flower or giving her a hug. Based on this kind of score keeping, he believes he will fulfill her best by focusing his time, energy and attention into doing something large for her.

This formula, however, doesn’t work because women keep a score differently. When a woman keeps a score, no matter how big or small a gift of love is, it scores one point; each gift has an equal value; its size doesn’t matter; it gets the point. A man, however, thinks he scores one point for a small gift and thirty points for a big gift since he doesn’t understand a woman keeps a score differently. He naturally focuses his energy into one or two big gifts. Man does realize that to a woman the little gift is just as important as the big things. In the other word, to a woman, a single rose gets as many points as paying the rents on time. Without understanding this basic difference in score keeping, man and woman are continually frustrated and disappointed in their relationships